“The oldest sibling always knows things that the younger ones don’t.” – Mike Mills
Last night I stumbled upon one of those questionnaires where you answer 10 questions and then some computer generated outcome/prediction will happen. The quiz was regarding your personality and how if it correlates with your birth order. I was incredibly skeptical – I mean, the first question was “Who do you prefer – Bill Clinton, Oprah, Jim Carey, Goldie Hawn”. I know, WTF right? The questions then got slightly more interesting from politics, to someone looking for volunteers.. My results were ‘calculated’ and then I saw on the screen: FIRST BORN (which is oddly correct)- followed by a lengthy paragraph regarding my personality. Essentially said I am an attention whore, perfectionist, with ambitious hardworking personality among other things… So I am a bitch? No, narcissist bitch…
I looked into birth orders and personalities a little bit more, and was actually pretty shocked and intrigued by what I was reading. First borns’ generally have a lot of the same personality traits:
Natural born leader – YES. Completely me. Taking charge of a group and constantly strives for the leading position.
Thirsty for approval – not so much.
Superior language skills in school – Always ranked in the top for speeches, spelling tests, reading, etc.
Keen to be in charge – YES. Just like Natural Born Leader.
Academically successful – Damn straight and incredibly proud of it.
Organised and responsible – I think so!
Harsh self-critical – Hahaha, I laughed at this. I guess I am just incredibly anal. But yes, even if I get 100% on something I could have done so much better.
Your deep-seated fear of rejection and dread failure – Rejection no, unless it goes with failure. But the failure goes with the self-critical. My version of failure can be different than someone else.
Feel guilty or overly responsible when things go wrong – No.
Find it hard to delegate responsibility even if you’re overloaded and stressed. You instead prefer to stay in control. – YES! How do I know/trust someone to do it right? I know I will do it well and I will excel, how can I trust someone else to do the same thing? It takes a LOT out of me to let go and allow others in. College DEFINITELY helped with that!!!
I think there has to be more to it than just birth order. It also suggested that two youngest’s or two oldests’ are not compatible with each other. A couple who are both the oldest will have a power struggle and always want to lead – for example picking a movie, no one would want to give up their first choice for the other. Jamie is also the oldest and I do not find this struggle at all between us. I have a much more extroverted, dominant personality and Jamie is much more passive and relaxed. I think if you always put the other person first there is no room for that. Each person is looking out for the others best interest. I understand what the article was saying, but I don’t think that birth order is the above all and end all to someone’s personality.